Getting the Buzz at 80+

That moment when your heart races, your eyes light up and the secret glee that you or your team have won dawns? Dependent upon the occasion, you jump up and down, throw champagne around and scream, or smile quietly and say how lucky you were. Something warm runs through your veins. Love it!

A regular adrenaline rush is probably part of a healthy human life. We seek it don’t we?

But how do you get that buzz when you are old, no longer in the thrust of life?

Some while ago I was walking down a side street and was amazed to see it filling up with coaches. From them poured streams of old ladies, hundreds of them! Sticks, wheelchairs, walking frames all in there, jostling and chuckling, but intent on getting to the big open door, a Bingo Club.

It was one of those moments. At work as a Physio I saw hundreds of old ladies, sad,  low, depressed. But these! These were happy excited people with anticipatory grins on their faces.
It may have been the point at which I realised I had not yet understood old age. I certainly realised that I had misjudged Bingo.

What was this magic medicine? Curiosity won again. We had to go in.

Had to be a member to play, but you didnt need to play to see the atmosphere.  And I mean see!

Meeting, greeting, waving and eventually seating. Waves of laughter at the sallies of the Bingo caller ….what a skilled job! Then tension, heads down, concentration, it turned into an exam hall! Some grey wizards doing two or three cards at once…..

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Excitement, disappointment, congratulations…have another cuppa, and off we go again. Living!

Nothing new! To my delight this week reading, a novel by the Victorian novelist Anthony Trollope, I discovered that he had made exactly the same observation 160 years ago!

One of his characters a  clergyman was pontificating on the iniquity of old ladies having parties and playing cards..for money!

Trollope, in reply, writes this delightful sketch* of such a party:  He would have understood a Bingo Hall!

“It is generally thought that a sad ennui pervades the life of most of those old ladies in England to whom fate has denied the usual cares and burdens of the world, or whose cares and burdens are done and gone. But there was no ennui here. No stockjobber on ‘Change could go about his exciting work with more animating eagerness. There were those who scolded, and those who were scolded. Those who sat silent, being great of mind, and those who, being weak, could not restrain their notes of triumph or their notes of woe; but they were all of them as animated and intense as a tiger springing at its prey. Watch the gleam of joy that lights up the half-dead, sallow countenance of old Mrs. Shortpointz as she finds the ace of trumps at the back of her hand, the very last card. Happy, happy Mrs. Shortpointz! Watch the triumph which illumines even the painted cheeks and half-hidden wrinkles of Lady Longspade as she brings in at the end of the hand three winning little clubs, and sees kings and queens fall impotent at their call. Triumphant…”

Why am I writing this?

Because we have just had the announcement of a Minister for Loneliness…..It sounded so sad, kindly meant, but so pathetic.  Can’t help but wonder if the very title doesnt make things worse!

Yes, for those old people who live alone, cant get out, no family and few friends there is a problem.   They are bored.   Am I allowed to say that?    Yes!  You can occupy time, read, watch TV, get a kick from crosswords, watching Sport  or Strictly but the big gap, the missing element, is the lift from joint excitement.

You need someone to share that raised adrenaline with!  Doing things with others, even gossiping  and arguing are known to be fundamental in all human societies.

I was intrigued by the reports on the new film The Greatest Showman. The critics weren’t having it, decidedly snooty they were, but the Sing Along version has turned out to be a huge success. The public loved the involvement…interactive cinema. The box office was taken by surprise.

Not at all surprising really. Maybe it too is in part that sense of group excitement we all seek. Our Bowls team? Our Bridge gang? The argument at our Book Club? Or whatever we are sharing with joy? And which, to my surprise, I have also discovered via the social media.

Adrenaline: challenge, activity, people and shared fun….the best antidote to depression, the pick me up, the buzz in life at any age.

Bingo, Bridge, and Blogging.

 

Could we have an NHS prescription:  A weekly coach trip to Bingo? A day at the races? Sing along night at the local? Football fan club? Fishing matches? Chess in the park. A day at Blackpool Fun House? A week at an old fashioned Butlins? Now that would be rehabilitation….

 

Or seeing your home as a venue?  

 

Visits by pop up games groups, chess, bridge, bingo? Crossword or jigsaw club?  Your teams fans joining you to watch the match?  Wimbledon, Strictly or Bake off adherents coming to share it? Social media teenager/teacher popping in? On line games and scrabble tournaments? Local clubs doing outreach? New people, new friends, fresh excitement..

If you watched that TV programme about older people in residential home interacting with Nursery School children, you will know just how powerful buzz is.

Living is about being part of a group, about getting interested and excited together. And  the pleasure of it doesnt stop in later years. If anything it is better!  

Is there any chance we could have a re name:

The Minister for Excitement?

*Excerpt From: Trollope, Anthony. “The Bertrams.” iBooks.
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3 Comments

  1. February 1, 2018 / 12:48 pm

    Love this post, thank you. This morning I went to breakfast with my daughter and three of
    My adult granddaughters – such a lovely way to start the day. Then I joined five other women for the first of a yea-long blogging mastermind group. The adrenaline was really pumping because I thought 80 was too old for such an adventure.

    It was good fun as we all confessed our apprehension, shared our goals for the year and worked out first steps to reaching them. It doesn’t matter what we do, even as old people, as long as we a are with others and engaged with them.

  2. February 1, 2018 / 3:18 pm

    Great post Joyce. Sounds like you certainly are great at Getting A Buzz by loving life.

  3. Patricia
    February 2, 2018 / 9:33 am

    New to your blog and like the idea of a minister for excitement as all to easy for everyone older to be stereotyped as having a gloomy time. Definitely not the case for me. I would love to hear/find out more about the blogging mastermind group. Can anyone help?

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